Written and Directed by Paddy Considine.
What does really mean the sentence ‘it was meant to be
this way’? It was destine, therefore there was nothing different one could do
about it to change it? The fact is that one didn’t know when he or she had to
change, that must be why the word destined. Either answer I might come up with
it won’t really change anything; given that people live the way they live, they
grow with fortune and some don’t, others are lucky that the people they choose
to spent their lives with happen to be what they think they are and others are
unlucky that those people change drastically to the wrong dark side.
People change, or maybe in another perspective, people
will always end up being their true selves some point or another in their
lives, they just need the specific amount of circumstances to become who they
are. To me, this film talks a little about that and how hard it becomes for me
to have faith in people.
Joseph is a lonely man, he’s getting old alone, he
drinks more and more, everything makes him mad, he’s increasingly violent, he’s
a raged man and he can’t seem to control it. His violent attitude towards
others looks frightening. Then he meets this woman called Hanna, who seemingly
appears to be the complete opposite of him. She owns a charity shop; she’s a
religious woman, caring and given who even prays for him. She’s from the upper
class of the town, married with no kids. But even with all her kindness,
Joseph’s first response is to insult her. He misjudges her, he can’t even
imagine how he misjudged part of her life.
But Joseph gets drawn to her and apologizes for his
behavior. As the film evolves, we are introduced to other characters that give
us brief but enough insights of these main characters’ past and present. We
learn of Joseph’s violent genes, we learn about the not so perfect middle class
married life of Hanna. Meanwhile, Joseph comes to Hanna for some kind of
support until Hanna’s husband James discovers and frightens her so much that
she drowns herself in drink because she knows what’s coming. And it’s brutal,
so brutal.
I personally love this storytelling, from what
separates Joseph and Hanna, to the questions about ‘religious’ forgiveness, to
the little details given periodically that gradually tells who these people are
made of. To me, it all comes to this tremendous heartbreaking scene when Joseph
discovers what Hannah has done to her husband and when she finally breaks apart
as she confesses to what she had to put up with him, what she suffered; she was
so abused to the point she couldn’t even have children. There’s this moment
when she says desperately, ‘I wanted to have babies, I just wanted to be a
mom’. The whole sequence stayed in my mind for the rest of the film. I couldn’t
actually cope with it, I don’t know how I managed to watch the rest of the
film, I could barely see it, with the tears rolling down my face. Here’s Hanna,
the most caring woman you could possibly meet, she just wanted to be a mom, but
instead for some unknown forces, some pretty unfair ones, ends in shit. Why? Can
the fucking religion answer to that?
‘All I wanted is
to have babies and be a mommy’, she said. Here it is, the famous sentence, the
one so many use to diminish women. I don’t understand why people forget the
basic idea of someone having a choice to do anything in life and one of those
choices can be of being a mom, of being a dad, either full time or not, either
single or not.
This film is about hiding in some forms of religion or
in alcoholism, it’s about violence, the abusers and the abused, it’s about
using religion as an excuse. To me, it comes down to what I was saying at the
beginning. You know someone, you think you understand him, you know him well
enough and then they become something else. It’s part of the human nature and
every day we are risking something and taking a chance on someone. It can be
damn dramatic. I hate that things are destined to be a certain way, I hate it.
Paddy Considine did a really competent work, the script
being the fundamental push and obviously a huge stand out to the bravery of
Peter Mullan, Olivia Colman and Eddie Marsan. These are the kind of
performances you genuinely admire. The film is worth it every minute, no matter
how you cannot stop crying afterwards.
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